How I Built a Life I Didn’t Plan

The old type-A version of me is screaming at the thought of admitting I didn’t plan any of this.

I didn’t plan this shift over the last five years.

Getting out of debt? No plan — we just paid what we could, when we could.

Shifting to an entrepreneur when nursing stopped fitting my lifestyle? I just did it.

Deciding to move 45 minutes back home from a beautiful house we thought we’d stay in forever?

That was a 15-minute conversation in Lowe’s while wrangling two babies.But there was this deep, solid knowing inside me (and my husband) that it was right.

So we listened — and we just did it.

Going from full-time nursing, four jobs that didn’t feel right, a buttload of debt (300k between our house, cars, student loans), burnout from trying to pour into patients all day and then my family at night —and a version of motherhood that left me feeling like I’d lost myself (because becoming a mom was hard for me, but I knew I was being called to grow into the mother I wanted to be)…

to building a home on our land — from scratch — using the lumber from the trees we cleared, my husband and dad carving the joinery by hand for the timber frame…

to homeschooling (which has been an adjustment, and hard, but I know it’s right)…

to homesteading (there’s nothing like raising your own food and knowing exactly what you’re feeding your family)…

to running a wellness studio that feels aligned — living out my dharma through my work (even though I still miss aspects of nursing sometimes)…

It didn’t happen overnight.

Life isn’t “slow.” I still get overwhelmed. But I do have more moments of slow than I used to, and I LOVE THAT. I can have coffee in silence for up to an hour before my kids get up. 

Life is still full & busy. In the best way.

The kind of busy that feels deeply meaningful — the kind I asked for.

Not the status quo “this is how you should do life” B.S. 

It’s grounding just thinking about it.

Looking back, it started when I stopped overthinking and started listening to myself.

When I trusted that little nudge inside that said, “something’s off.”

That feeling of anxiety, I learned, is my intuition. My internal compass. Spirit. The Universe. Source. God.

However you refer to it — it’s that inner voice that already knows.

That’s really what UNIFY was built on — even before I could name it.Faith. Trust. Inner guidance. Action.

Creating a life that feels good because it’s mine.

So if something in your world feels “off,” this is your reminder —it’s not random.

It’s your soul trying to get your attention.

I invite you to open up to it.

To take action & follow it. 

In YOUR own way.