Living in the In-Between

We’re living in a time of extremes. Right or left. Black or white. This way or that way.

But most of life? It's lived in the in-between.

No one’s really talking about that.

The in-between isn’t some vague, woo-woo concept. It’s real. It’s grounded. It shows up in everyday life—your finances, your health, your relationships, your parenting, how you eat, how you move, how you think. We are always in a state of in-between, whether we realize it or not. And there’s real power in recognizing that.

The in-between is not extremist. It doesn’t cling to one outcome. It doesn’t scream for certainty.

It gives you space to make a decision based on what feels aligned right now.

When you do that, you start to shift. Those small decisions ripple outward and create your reality—slowly, subtly, and intentionally.

Take politics.

Far-right, far-left. Anti-this, pro-that. It’s loud. It's divisive.

What if we let ourselves live in the middle—where nuance exists, where context matters, where compassion leads? I’m not saying the extremes don’t matter. They do. Change often comes from extreme passion. But the in-between is where most of us live. And it’s okay to allow ourselves to stay there.

Same goes for education.

Public school vs. homeschool. Moms shaming themselves for doing it “wrong.”

My kids are in public school right now. But I’m starting my homeschooling venture this summer. If it doesn’t work out? I’ll send them back to public school. I’m not glued to an outcome. I’m making the best decision I can for my family in this moment. That decision was made in the in-between.

And healthcare? Oh lord. This is a big one.

After COVID, I got really sick. Severe anxiety. Insomnia. Lyme. Depression. Neuro stuff. Bladder problems. I was not okay. (Read that post here and here if you want the full story.)

I was stuck in this mindset of:

“I can do this on my own.”

“Medication is bad.”

“Big pharma just wants me to put money in their pocket. They're not actually looking out for me”

And though that mindset made sense, I also didn’t fully trust the functional or integrative route either. Functional medicine seemed “too easy.” Exercise, change my diet, work on sleep hygiene, take my supplements, meditate, trust myself… that’s it? What? My situation felt too extreme for something that simple.

So I froze. I didn’t make a decision (although not making a decision is a decision in itself right?).

Fear mongering-- especially online (I was obsessively researching help online)-- is the absolute devil, y’all. It kept me in decision paralysis.

What I didn’t realize was that I was in the in-between. I wasn’t letting myself move within it. I wasn’t grounded. I wasn’t trusting my own wisdom.

I was reacting from fear, not choosing from alignment.

The in-between is where you get to breathe.

It’s not about having it all figured out. It’s not about “picking a side.”

It’s about honoring right now. What feels true in this moment? What do you need today?

You can change your mind tomorrow. That’s the beauty of it.

But we live in a culture that hates that idea. The world wants you to pick a side. Stay loyal. Stand firm—even if it stops working for you.

That’s not freedom.

I care about me. My family. Our health. Our peace.

I want you to feel empowered to care about yourself and your family too—without shame, without division, without being forced into a box.

So much of what we see around us is pushing us to extremes. Be all in or all out. Pick a side. Stay there. Don’t change your mind.

Life doesn’t work like that (I’m convinced nothing works like that).

We’re always in the in-between.

Every moment, we’re being invited to choose again. To adjust. To realign.

It doesn’t have to be dramatic. It can be subtle. It can be quiet. It can be just for today.

The in-between isn’t indecision or confusion.

It's freedom.

It’s where clarity comes from.

It’s where transformation takes root—not because we force it, but because we stay present to what’s real.

This isn’t about agreeing with everyone or pretending we don’t have convictions. It’s about honoring and navigating the space we all share: the messy, honest, human middle.

That’s the in-between. It’s OK (maybe necessary) to give yourself permission to live there.