I had a conversation with a friend earlier. She talked about honoring herself over people pleasing.
And then she talked about the resistance she was feeling toward doing that.
Ya’ll, when we have been conditioned to people please or to do for others first, our inner child is going to scream. She’s going to fight and kick and tell you that you’re doing something wrong (aka anxiety, guilt, worry, tension, rumination).
You’re not. Adult you can sit with little you and let her feel her feels, and then remind her that she did the right thing. She honored her first. She came first and she’s still OK. She deserves that. She was meant to have her needs honored first. She is divine and sacred and will be treated like so.
Do it over and over again, reminding her of that, and you’ll start to see a shift. Let it take time. She is learning to trust herself again.